Just tell me what you need is a kind sentence with a hidden cost. It hands the tired person one more decision. What follows is a list of things that need no decision at all.
Take a block, not a task
Thirty minutes where she is not on call. Not helping while she is still listening for the baby. Actually not on call. Same time each day if you can, so it is not negotiated.
Own a whole category
- Every meal, including deciding what it is.
- Every appointment: booking, remembering, driving.
- Every visitor: who, when, and how long.
Answer the ask with one word
When Ask for Help arrives, it is already small and specific. Yes is a complete answer. Questions turn help back into a negotiation.
Do not ask for the score
Her Refuel Score is hers. When Care Circle roles ship, a partner will see practical requests and shared context, not the number. That is on purpose.